This film really moves me, because it addresses themes that pervaded my youth. Dustin Hoffman had already impressed me in this sensual film The Graduate (with sound track by the talented Simon and Garfunkel). Mia Farrow did the same thing in the illustrious TV series Peyton Place. Perhaps the relation of John and Mary is less sensual, but it is certainly equally daring. The attraction between them is almost tangible. Their relationship is a continuous oscillation between detachment and passion. There is a fine line between cuddling and holding someone down so they can not get away. Both of them are willing to explore the limits, and to risk losing the other. Just imagine, she does not want to kiss on her first date. He asks: "How about on your last date?" Often (but not always!) they have conflicting perceptions, and both have hidden frustrations in the closet. She has been on so many blind dates, that she should get a free dog. Although they are common people, they are extremely self-confident. Moreover, the film avoids a cheap straining after effect, and the narrative seems credible. This makes their thoughts and behavior truly fascinating, at least for me. They even create some suspense and fun. He tells her that he has bought two tickets for the theater - she has two room mates (just kidding). Still, the film has some complexities, for the plot presents controversial morals, even nowadays. It evokes the illusion, that instant sex builds relations. On the other hand, John and Mary are in danger of exploiting each other. For instance, they exchange names only after 24 hours (this is not a joke!). Depending on your own views, this could make the film challenging or perhaps sleazy. It creates ambiguous feelings, which certainly makes you ponder. I must definitely watch this film again.
Review of John and Mary
