During one insomnia driven night/morning, I found this movie playing. I enjoy Holly Hunter's acting so I thought I would watch this film "Once Around." I found Sam's character to be wildly inappropriate and selfish. Sam could not take "no" for an answer on anything he wanted to do. The funeral scene in which Renata's father had buried his mother was particularly telling of Sam's poor qualities. Sam insisted upon singing his Lithuanian song to celebrate Joe's mother. His wife intervened politely and then quite sternly, but Sam was relentless in believing he was right. Not until Joe and Renata became involved in the seemingly silly argument was Sam forced to step aside albeit briefly. The next opportunity to rub his precious song in their faces was just after Renata gave birth. As the Renata's family circled her and her little baby girl, Sam brought in some musicians so he could sing his damn song. If I had been the matriarch or patriarch of the family I would have slugged him. Sam would not let anyone deter him from doing what he always wanted.
I thought the screenwriters did not confront the allegations brought up between the Renata's sister and Joe. The conversation occurred during the wedding reception and Joe thought Sam was essentially buying off Renata and not treating her as an equal. I agreed and yet this was never disproved in the movie. Frankly, the age gap, economic disparity, and personality differences made me a disbeliever of this so-called true love. Sam was deranged and could probably qualify for a couple of personality and mental disorders found in the DSMVI. Sam was also too friendly with Renata's mother, sister, and almost every other female character. He was a rich playboy with money to rule and behave as he wished. While not a total jerk in regards to providing for Renata and her family, he lacked the moral intellect and partnership skills necessary for true human relationships.
Sam soured my viewing and enjoyment of the film. His death was actually a relief. The supporting cast did an excellent job, but with one of the main characters so abhorrent and the storyline cautious, the movie was a disappointment.
I thought the screenwriters did not confront the allegations brought up between the Renata's sister and Joe. The conversation occurred during the wedding reception and Joe thought Sam was essentially buying off Renata and not treating her as an equal. I agreed and yet this was never disproved in the movie. Frankly, the age gap, economic disparity, and personality differences made me a disbeliever of this so-called true love. Sam was deranged and could probably qualify for a couple of personality and mental disorders found in the DSMVI. Sam was also too friendly with Renata's mother, sister, and almost every other female character. He was a rich playboy with money to rule and behave as he wished. While not a total jerk in regards to providing for Renata and her family, he lacked the moral intellect and partnership skills necessary for true human relationships.
Sam soured my viewing and enjoyment of the film. His death was actually a relief. The supporting cast did an excellent job, but with one of the main characters so abhorrent and the storyline cautious, the movie was a disappointment.