User Reviews

Fantastic Fest 2023 Greetings again from the darkness. Every year, Christmas is voted both the happiest AND most stressful time of the year. The reason why seems pretty obvious and is encapsulated in one word: family. Co-writers and co-directors Marisa Crespo and Moises Romera seize on this phenomenon by having Aitana and her wife Gabi, along with their recently adopted baby boy, make a surprise visit to Aitana's parents' home on Christmas Eve ... or if you prefer the word used by the parents, it's an 'unannounced' visit.

From the moment the front door is answered, Aitana (and us) notices the cold and strange reception. After being away for three years, she expected long hugs and oohs and ahhs. Instead, her wheelchair bound brother, Saul, is the only one happy to see her, and the curious vibe includes meeting Nadia. The layers take a while to peel back, but what's apparent is that Nadia has replaced Aitana as the daughter, and this includes sleeping in her bed, wearing her clothes, and being doted on by the parents.

The atmosphere shifts from odd to downright bizarre in the evening as a formal dinner party confuses Aitana. Is she in danger? Is her baby in danger? Is Nadia a threat? What is up with her parents' odd behavior? There are teases of the supernatural, demon worship, and a culinary cult. Does any of this play out? Does Aitana's nightmare come true? The filmmakers expertly toss out many questions, while we as viewers are reminded of ROSEMARY'S BABY (1968) and THE WICKER MAN (1973) as the set-up progresses. No one would describe this as a typical Christmas flick (although there is an Old Nick); however, it's an impressive production that keeps us guessing.

Saw this at the Imagine film festival 2023 in Amsterdam. Very tense and very surprising due to many unexpected turns of events it offers. From the start, the story could go in many directions, none of which seem actually pursued while the story develops, so surprise after surprise can be expected.

Ample plot elements are available. Take the lesbian couple bringing a "surprise" visit to the family of one of them, after losing contact three years ago. They carry an adopted black baby with them. The former room of the daughter proves occupied by a woman who is treated as a replacement, who also wears her clothes. Many things happen before and during the Christmas meal. Remarkably, an aunt and uncle who attended each and every foregoing year, were not invited. Instead, non-family members are welcomed as VIP guests.

Feeling alienated and unwelcome is the main observation. Near the finale I had reminiscences (incorrect, in hindsight) of Get Out (Jordan Peele 2017), possible misled by the black boy they brought along (casted a black baby here on purpose?). I was wrong, as developments went in a totally different direction. I cannot reveal anything further without giving away the ending.

When leaving the venue, I scored 5/5 for the audience award. All in all: tense, unexpected developments, ample ingredients to keep us guessing how the story would proceed, and finally surprising us with a totally different outcome. Sufficiently complex but not overly convoluted.

Short review: 'You're Not Me' is a Spanish horror/thriller/mystery that I was lucky enough to attend the premiere of. It's a film that wants to put you in its lead character's shoes. It wants you to understand her frustration and bewilderment at the situation. So any frustration you as a viewer are finding while watching, just know that was the intention.

I love the ending of this film. It was worth the wait. I was so eager for the film to commit itself to whichever ending path it went down, and it did just that. While this isn't a perfect film, I do think most will find more than enough enjoyment in it one way or the other. 6/10.