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Ross isn't confident enough to accept attending his ex Carol's lesbian wedding to Susan. Because the wedding caterer has a bad accident, Monica gets the job, a first for her, but can't get it done without generalized slave labor... Joey has his first TV appearance as Dr. Drake Ramore in Days of Our Lives, and shows the friends some acting tricks used there. Phoebe's 82 year-old client Rose died on her massage table, and her spirit went into her- now she has two crazy personalities and an octogenarian's agenda. Rachel was all nerves for her ma's first visit since she blew her wealthy wedding to Barry, but actually her happiness in poverty inspires her mother, who never worked but cracks at everybody, to leave Rach's pa and cheerfully join the crazy modern girls life. Everybody attends the wedding, and when Carol's parents won't give her away, Ross took the care.

Susan and carol are going to marry, for Ross' despair.

Monica will be the new supplier of their wedding buffet, since she still is unemployed and the original supplier gave up.

Rachel's mother wants to divorce from Rachel' s dad, and Rachel tries to make her mother change her mind.

And old client from Phoebe's dies on her massage table. Phoebe thinks the old lady's spirit is in her body and she starts to behave and talk like the old lady.

Carol and Susan suffer from a crisis, since Carol doesn't want to marry Susan without her parents' consent. They almost canceled their wedding, but incredibly, Ross is the one who gives Carol support to go ahead with the wedding , also giving Carol away to Susan, since her parents deny to go in her lesbian wedding.

I have watched the show (especially the first 4 seasons) maybe a dozen times over all these years, and this is one of my favorite．According to some books about story and characters, most good story should also dig deeper and deeper into a character. The show began with Ross' divorce due to his wife Carol realized that she is lesbian. And Ross has always been kind of hostile and competitive against the other woman, Susan. While in this episode, Ross stepped in when Carol's parents refused to come to the wedding and give away Carol to Susan, and Susan invited him to dance at the wedding. That's the original Ross, boyish but sweet deep inside. It's a pity that they have kind of ruined this character later to keep the show running longer.

Remember, it was 1996 when standards were, while progressing, different.

Ross had every reason to keep 100 miles from the wedding of his ex-wife who left him for a woman and seriously considered replacing Ross's name in Ben's surname with her soon-to-be wife's. Furthermore, Susan has, up until this episode, rubbed her and Carols relationship in Ross's face at any given opportunity.

Yet, in spite of that, he couldn't deal Carol being unhappy and still had the fortitude to give Carol away at her wedding.

Ross has a lot of flaws, and my least favourite of the gang, but that kind of bravery and decency is unheard of even to this day.

I would have liked to have seen one more scene though where Ross had a silent cry in private but then put his brave face back on and went back out there.

It is interesting to watch this episode now. It was filmed over 15 years ago and the attitudes to homosexuality have probably changed. I am not saying that everyone is OK with it, but living in Canada now that gay marriage is legal for years I don't find the joke where Carol tells Ross that they are getting married and he says "As in I pronounce you wife and wife?" funny

But I liked how they made this episode. It is promoting tolerance and that love is all that matters. And I find it absolutely sweet that when Carol doesn't know if to go through with the wedding because her parents don't want to come Ross encourages her to go through with it and says that they are doing it for each other. And then he is there for her and gives her away to Susan at the wedding.

Rachel annoyed me at this episode. She was so selfish and inconsiderate of her mother. But I guess they did it on purpose to show how sometimes people can be hypocritical and don't see someone having the same problems as them, especially when it comes to parents

This is a really nice episode of 'Friends', a ground-breaking one at the time due to its attitudes towards gay marriage.

There are some lovely moments to be found here, not just from the main plot involving Ross/Carol/Susan.

We get an early sign of how funny Monica can be when she's being bossy and also when the show looks at Joey's acting career.

The 'Rachel's mum visits' plot wasn't that great but everything else in this episode worked. There's some great Matthew Perry lines in here too.

An important early episode.