Hours after I gave birth to my first child, my husband cradled all five pounds of our boy and said gently, "Hi, sweet pea". Not "buddy" or "little man". Sweet pea. The words filled me with unanticipated comfort. Like most parents, we knew what we'd name our son but never discussed how we'd speak to him. I was witnessing my husband's commitment to raising a sweet boy. Because this is what the world needs now, urgently: sweet boys and people who grow them...Boys will not merely be boys. If we let them, boys will be human.